Discouragment-it's not terminal

Good morning folks,

Today, I want to talk to you about discouragement…in the sense that we don’t see changes in our lives happen as rapidly as we’d like.

And we wonder if they will ever happen and what we could be doing wrong.

At least I can think that.

As in “Why am I still feeling this way, doing this thing, working at this job?”

Can any of you guys relate?

I just had a birthday and I am taking stock- an inventory if you will- of where I am and how far I have to go to get to be the person I dream of being.

Am I gaining on myself at all?

The thing is- I am already the person I am supposed to be at this time.

I’m sure it’s by no coincidence that I am reading a book that explains God’s timing.

Slow.

Or it seems that way.

But it makes sense.

There are things I need to do. To deal with. To make part of my life.

Spiritual Boot Camp, maybe.

I can not be a confident person if I haven’t dealt with the fear that holds me back.

I can’t love 40 pounds and keep it off if I haven’t learned how my relationship with food (its love/hate, by the way) has affected all parts of my life.

I can’t feel hopeful, unless I see a glimmer of hope- in a loved one’s eyes, an associate’s, even more importantly, in our own eyes as we look intently at our reflection.

I can’t see how far I have come already if I don’t take the time to consider where I have already been.

I need to gear down from warp speed and reflect on what is good and wonderful about me.

 So, first things first. I’m sitting with a cup of green tea and I am going to still myself after I post this.

I hope you will do something similar. Right now if you can.

What is good and wonderful about you? List a few things and keep your paper handy to jot down more as you think of them.

Why don’t you drop me a line with what you’ve come up with?

You too, guys.

Wishing you grace & peace,

Susan

Hocus Pocus-can you focus?

How’s your focus been lately? I have always been a multi-tasker-I don’t even want to admit some of the times I’ve done more than one thing when I had no business doing it. I will say I haven’t put make up on while driving, but pretty much nothing else is off limits.

Reading while watching TV.

Brushing my teeth, while wiping out the bathroom sink

Carrying recyclables and a load of laundry downstairs while stopping to tend to the wood furnace on my way up...maybe taking an extra trip up and down for exercise while I’m at it.

When I’m lazy, I do dishes during the commercials-yes, I admit it!

We all fold clothes while cooking supper, right?  Thought so!

Is it a woman thing? Because, I don’t see my husband doing much of it, unless you count reading in the bathroom.

Let’s not even go there.

However, I have discovered something of late.

My desire to accomplish more and more, faster and faster, has left me with an atrophied ability to focus, intently, on just one single thing at a time.

Especially things that needed deep concentration.

I wondered why all the reading I was doing for my classes wasn’t sticking in my brain that well.

Hello! Because I had trained that organ to think about this, that, and the other thing even if I wasn’t actually doing this that and the other thing.

I’m glad I figured this out-not only for the sake  of my marks but also as a wake up call –how much of my life was I actually missing out on, because my mind was going a 100 mile per hour  and my hands were trying to keep up?

Are you a multi-tasker or are you focused on one thing at a time.

Take my quiz found on the Personal Coaching page of http://www.turningpointchangestartshere.com/
Wishing you grace & peace

Susan

 

Finding the good within us

I was sitting here today working with someone and we are taking an inventory of what to change about ourselves, and what we want to keep.

Because we all have good stuff within us-yes we do. You do. I do. Certainly the individual I was working with does.

How often we forget that.

It seems we are all on a vigilant mission of self-improvement.

That, in itself, is not a bad thing.

There is always room for growth.

But, please, remember that every single day, you do good things

You have many awesome qualities. Right?

I can list 35 right now and I bet you can own quite a few.

For instance, you may:

1. Be a good parent, child or sibling
2. Be loving & kind
3. Be responsible
4. Volunteer
5. Be forgiving
6. Do errands for others
7. Be a good pet owner
8. Be creative
9. Be empathic
10. Be a good employee
11. Be a good boss
12. Be punctual
13. Be a good home maker
14. Be a good cook
15. Be helpful
16. help others
17. Be financially responsible
18. Be organized
19. Keep commitments
20. Take on commitments
21. Know when to say no
22. Know when to say yes
23. Lend an ear to a friend whose hurting
24. Be good at keeping in touch with friends and family
25. Be a good host or hostess
26. Keep confidences to yourself
27. Try not to judge others
28. Have patience
29. Be able to apologize
30. See where you have gone wrong
31. Be intuitive
32. Be hard working
33. Know when to relax
34. Know what others may enjoy (gifts, books etc)
35. Share what you have  

Why don’t you let me know of any others you possess, and I’ll post them anonymously (or not, it’s your choice)
Here’s to embracing the good within ourselves!

Susan Carey
Life Coaching in Training